January Frosty Splendor

Greetings for the New Year. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas connecting with family and friends and that the year is starting off with great energy and promise.

Here in my area of Vancouver, we have been blessed with brilliant sunny, crisp, calm weather – perfect for walks in nature. And Nature put on a dazzling display!

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Are you fighting your disease?

Perspective is everything.   Consider if you are fighting the disease that you are fighting yourself because the disease is part of you.  The more you fight, the more stress, the less possibility of healing. Rather than fighting the disease consider approaching it with curiosity to understand why it has shown up and what it might be trying to tell you.

Whom or what are you fighting?  Ask yourself – are you blaming others or your circumstances?  are you blaming your body?  are you blaming yourself because of lifestyle sins you think you have made?  Blaming, complaining, fighting are all energy drains and add stress and do not provide the necessary self-reflection that can move you toward understanding and solutions.  Do whatever you can, as quickly as you can, to let go of these non-helpful reactions.

The disease is what it is.  First step is to recognize it as your reality for the moment, that it has shown up for a reason.  Be willing to take ‘response-ability’ for it showing up – not that you are at fault or have done anything wrong but rather that it is the outcome of an unconsciously held pattern of stress or program of belief.

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The Calm After the Storm

It’s been a stormy time here on the west coast.  We are now enjoying the calm after the storm.   I hope your life is calm for you.  And if not right now, my wish for you is that you find resources to support resolution of whatever may be troubling you and to restore your own inner calm.

A crisp clear day in mid November - blueberry fields, Pitt Meadows, BC

A crisp clear day in mid November – blueberry fields, Pitt Meadows, BC

I have been enjoying several opportunities to network with others and find common ground and support for collaboration.  I am looking forward to  sharing my message of self-healing more widely with video, interviews and with my writing and speaking.  Please watch my Facebook page and blog posts in the coming weeks.

The article this month is a true life story of a courageous woman’s healing journey and how her healing helped many in her family to heal as well.  As I have written before, the greatest gift for those you love is the gift of your own healing.  It is a gift of love for yourself and for those around you.

I want to highlight an upcoming live event for those of you living in the Vancouver lower mainland and Fraser Valley area – Soul Talks – a day of ‘TED’ talks for the soul – on Saturday, November 29th.  For details and how to register at Soul Talks event on Facebook.  Hope to see you there.

Finally, I have made a few new recommendations for book resources.

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Want to use this article in your ezine or website? You can, as long as you include this complete acknowledgment with it -  Dr. Nelie Johnson is a family physician and facilitator for healing – inspiring and guiding people to heal their life and heal their body.  She is a contributing author to a bestselling book and provides seminars, workshops, and private consultations.

Healing Yourself, Healing Family

I recently had the opportunity to hear a story from a woman, I call her ‘Diane’, who healed herself and as she did so, it helped many members in her family to heal also.

Three Generations

Diane described to me that she had a ‘rough upbringing’.  Her alcoholic Dad died when she was just 4 years old.  Her mother went to work to raise her daughter and two older children.  In addition, Mother, I’ll call her Susan, was manic-depressive whose several boyfriends over the years emotionally and sexually abused Diane.

Diane grew up feeling traumatized, really alone and abandoned not only because her Mom was away at work and not protecting her but also because her two brothers who were several years older didn’t want her tagging along with them.  In her teen years she was acting out – hanging out with a wild crowd, drinking and taking drugs.  She felt not worth taking care of.

She married young and attempted to marry someone better than herself.  The marriage didn’t last long, a little more than 2 years.  However, now she had a child to care for.  Although she stopped using drugs and excessive alcohol since age of 17, she struggled with depression.   Her overall sense of herself all her life was that she was ‘damaged goods’.

After her second child in a second marriage (and she is still married to the child’s father), Diane became severely depressed and suicidal.  She was poised to jump off a ladder with a noose around her neck, ready to hang herself but her dog stopped her.  He put his paws on her feet. In that moment, Diane knew she was being asked to choose life and with the help of counselling she chose to live and to committed to a spiritual journey to reconnect with her true self and with a sense of belonging in the world.

Over the next several years she took personal development courses and spiritual workshops.  She uncovered a core belief that she was not lovable  and as she let go of that belief, she grew in self-love and self-esteem to find solid foundation of peace within herself.

An even bigger shift came when she connected with her deep feelings of abandonment and realized that it was primarily her mother’s issue.  Susan, her mother, had lost both her parents at a young age and married in her teens, lost her husband to alcohol in her 20s and had a number of failed relationships.

What was astounding for Diane was that during the days she was releasing her feelings of abandonment, Susan reported to her later that during the same period she was confined to her bed for three days with a severe bouts of vomiting and diarrhea and felt surprisingly well and much lighter afterwards.  Also at the same time, what was remarkable and most touching for Diane was her mother expressed to her for the very first time – “ I am sorry that I didn’t love you as a child.”

Susan, now in her mid 70s, is seeing a counsellor and is starting to heal.  Also Diane’s daughter who has struggled with low self-esteem and depression, like her mother and grandmother before her, is taking steps for her own healing.

With great insight, Diane expressed to me the following -  “ Mom just didn’t have the strength to heal.  I was the one that had to go first.  As I did my healing, I freed up my Mom and my daughter to do their own healing. I am grateful to finally break the chain of this behaviour in my family. ”

I thanked Diane for sharing her courageous story with me and allowing me to share it with others.   In my work with people, I have witnessed similar breakthroughs and the ripple effect of benefit it has for those around them.

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Breast Cancer Awareness or Healing Awareness?

A lot is made of October as breast cancer awareness month.  Why only breast cancer?  Why not cancer awareness month?

I started thinking how the language we use directs our focus.  What about a Healing Awareness Month?

I have been writing and speaking for years about breast cancer, and about cancer and disease in general, and doing whatever I can to bring people’s attention to a healing perspective.

Here’s an all too common and repeating scenario. I use the example of breast cancer but I could use any cancer or serious health concern.

A woman is found to have breast cancer.  Her initially response is shock, perhaps disbelief – ‘why me?  what did I do to deserve this?’

Her fear and stress rise as she reviews what she has heard about breast cancer – how common it is, how disfiguring and sickening the medical treatments are.  She fears the disease and she fears the treatment for it and she fears the consequences if she does not do the maximum medical therapy.  And she fears dying, and how devastating that would be for her, her family and loved ones.

This patient goes through treatment – surgery, chemo and radiation therapy and perhaps Tamoxifen.  In addition she meets with a naturopath and changes her diet and takes nutritional supplements.  She takes steps to reduce her stress with yoga, meditation and exercise.

She gets a good result.  And yet she remains in fear – fear that the cancer might recur.   Where is the peace?  Where is healing in this scenario?  It does not have to be this way. [Read more...]

Which ‘world’ are you living in?

Early one morning as I entered my bathroom, I noticed that all the objects appeared in shades of grey.  I could not recognize any colour.   There was just not enough light to bring out colour.

I had a flash of insight!   Just as when there is not enough light, our world appears dark and grey, when we don’t have enough knowledge – ‘light’ – we tend to see things as black or white.  When we don’t have enough of the truth – ‘colour’ – to make informed decisions, we risk making assumptions and false conclusions.

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Healing as an Act of Surrender

The more I support and guide people in their healing journey, the more I learn about the process of healing and how to help people experience it.

I can provide very similar information and mentorship to clients and some engage fully and heal and others don’t.   Why is this?

I am reminded of a maxim my own physician mentor and trainer in this healing modality emphasized – “ Healing does not depend on what you know, or what you understand, or even what you believe.  Healing depends on what you do. “

In the last year I have been working with a client, (I’ll call him James) who has a degenerative neurologic disease, similar to MS.  By the time he contacted me his condition had deteriorated such that he could no longer drive and was soon after wheelchair dependent.   He had exhausted medical and alternative therapies and his doctors advised him that they had nothing more to offer him.

Within a very few sessions, I was able to piece together the pattern of stress that resulted in triggering the disease as well as reveal to James that he had resolved the original trauma and had moved on in his life.  Well then, why was the condition continuing to worsen? [Read more...]

The Many Gifts of Healing

Whenever most of us think of healing we think of the health and well-being of the person who heals from an illness and perhaps the relief for his/her family and friends and community. However, there are other surprising gifts of healing.

Here’s an example of what I mean. I worked with a patient, ‘ Jennifer’, who had suffered the pain, low energy and mood, and poor sleep of fibromyalgia for many years. I helped her to uncover and clear the deep underlying conflicts that were holding her in the disease state. Within a few months she was able to make shifts in her beliefs and her perspective of herself. As Jennifer healed emotionally, her physical health was restored.

However, that was just the beginning, for as she healed in mind and spirit, her interactions with her family changed. She was able to speak up and clear unspoken resentments and hurts that had been keeping her apart from family members. As she opened up communication, she paved the way for other family members to do the same. She created a climate of forgiveness and reconnection. As she restored these relationships, her family as a whole benefited. [Read more...]

What Will Make This a ‘Happy’ New Year for You?

My inspiration for this article comes from a TED talk that I happened to view on New Year’s Day given by a wise 17 year old young man, Sam Berns.

Sam has an exceedingly rare genetic disorder, progeria, which involves an abnormal protein causing accelerated aging – stunted growth, tight skin, lack of hair and heart disease.  He has the appearance of a skinny gnome and weighs not much more than 50 pounds and despite his bizarre look he has a smile and a spirit that lights up an auditorium.

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What Sam says is the most important thing he wants us to know about him is simply that he lives a very happy a life.  In his TED talk, sitting in a small chair on stage in front of a full audience so his feet can rest on the stage floor, he shares the three aspects of his philosophy of happiness. [Read more...]

My Mother’s Wisdom

I phoned my mother one morning last week to thank her for being present at my 65th birthday dinner.  My mother was a very independent and energetic woman into her late 80’s early 90’s.   She is now 95 years old.

However, in the last two years her memory had been slipping and she had become no longer able to safely care for herself in her own home.  She has been a residential care facility for over a year where the staff make her feel part of a family.

In recent months, she has been more likely to become upset, erratic in her reactions, and confused when stressed.  So along with my two brothers and the care home staff we have agreed that Mom be always accompanied when she goes out for a walk using her walker.  It has been difficult for her to accept this restriction to her freedom and independence.

Her most coherent times are in the morning – a good time to make a phone call.  Let me share some of our conversation from that call last week (with my mother’s blessing).

“ I feel so blessed.  I am so happy that we could be all together at your birthday.  It was special.  I think of you children a lot and I feel so blessed. ”  Then she went on to say:

“ I am much more positive in my thinking.  Strange that it is so. ”

When I asked her what she was thinking, her reply was:  “ I don’t know.  It can’t be said but you can feel it. ”  I responded saying how wise her comment was.  Feeling truly is the key.

Being confined indoors, she sits in her room a lot and she shared with me how fortunate she feels to have a room with a view.  She looks out over trees.  Her next comment was:  “ Looking out on the trees gives me such a good feeling.  I am almost in the woods here. ”  I was quite moved and astonished at this shift in her perspective because for the previous months Mom has done nothing but complain about not being free to go out for her little walks outside on her own.

She went on to say how much she admired me for the work I am doing and that I was a strong woman.  My reply to her was how much she gave me strength with her wisdom and her love.  I told her I loved her so much.  She told me that her love was “ so much bigger than words could say.  Can’t say what it is but I can feel it. ”

As we said our goodbyes she said to me “ Make it a lovely day. ”  Truly it is my choice to make it so.  I felt so blessed to receive this wisdom from my mother who at her advanced age is continuing to grow in love and grace, and appreciation for all her blessings.

This conversation with my mother was reminder that how I want to feel is my choice.  In order to make that choice at times I have to make sure my thoughts and beliefs support how I want to feel.

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Want to use this article in your ezine or website? You can, as long as you include this complete acknowledgment with it -  Dr. Nelie Johnson is a family physician and facilitator for healing – inspiring and guiding people to heal their life and heal their body.  She is a contributing author to a bestselling book and provides seminars, workshops, and private consultations.