Healing as an Act of Surrender

The more I support and guide people in their healing journey, the more I learn about the process of healing and how to help people experience it.

I can provide very similar information and mentorship to clients and some engage fully and heal and others don’t.   Why is this?

I am reminded of a maxim my own physician mentor and trainer in this healing modality emphasized – “ Healing does not depend on what you know, or what you understand, or even what you believe.  Healing depends on what you do. “

In the last year I have been working with a client, (I’ll call him James) who has a degenerative neurologic disease, similar to MS.  By the time he contacted me his condition had deteriorated such that he could no longer drive and was soon after wheelchair dependent.   He had exhausted medical and alternative therapies and his doctors advised him that they had nothing more to offer him.

Within a very few sessions, I was able to piece together the pattern of stress that resulted in triggering the disease as well as reveal to James that he had resolved the original trauma and had moved on in his life.  Well then, why was the condition continuing to worsen?

In one critical area, James was stuck.  He was not letting go his fear of having the disease.  He was frustrated, resentful and angry.  He was in fight mode.  I explained to him this reaction to his disease, however understandable, was perpetuating stress for his body-mind.  As long as there remained an emotional charge, recovery and healing from his condition could not proceed.

How could I help James get past this impasse?

1)     Remind him of the healing work he had accomplished – he had identified the root cause of the disease; he had taken responsibility for his unconscious reactions; and he had resolved and released the associated emotional charge.  The actions of – “name it, claim it, and dump it.”

2)     Review with him where and why he was stuck – in fear, resisting having the disease, angry and frustrated.  He was creating his own level of stress and blocking healing.  The way out was to accept that he had the disease for now, surrender to that, and trust that his body-mind could and would heal once he got out of his own way.

3)   Encourage him to develop an attitude of gratitude for his body-mind which was always doing its very best to serve his survival.  (I have a powerful metaphor which supports gratitude.)  And further to develop gratitude for everything in his life.

4)   Advise him to develop his healing belief by reading inspiring true life stories of healing.  (Example:  “Peace, Love and Healing” by Dr. Bernie Siegel)

5)  Ask him to let go of focusing on his present limitations and focus on his future – in the next days, weeks, months and years – of what he wanted to be experiencing in his life.  How did he really want to feel?  How did he want his relationships to be?  What experiences did he want to have with his family?  What did he really want to live for?

At the end of the day, we dont live to heal a disease.  We heal to live a life.

What I discovered with James, are the following critical steps to healing -

*   surrender to what is (accepting what is for now)

*    go after the message of the illness

*    clear the stress pattern

*    develop gratitude for the body-mind

*    develop a trust and belief in the body’s ability to heal itself

*    focus on a desired future.